8 Tips for Parenting as a Single Dad

By Noha Abu Sitta

Life as a single dad is definitely not less challenging than it is for a single mom. Both men and women have the capability of being caring and nurturing parents if they intend to and work on it. However, it could be more challenging for a man to become a new single dad with children at home. Parenting in itself is a major and life-changing task where a parent or parents often have to juggle work, kids, home management, food, shopping, social life, family obligations, sport activities and extracurricular activities, working out, running errands, school work, disciplining, preparing school lunch boxes, doctor visits, sick children, etc.  It can get too overwhelming just thinking about it.

Most single dads are single because they’ve divorced. Single fatherhood is already a very challenging transition yet when it is the result of the death of your spouse, it becomes even more challenging as it is emotionally charged. This requires that you deal with your own grief as well as your children’s too. Ask for help from relatives, friends and professionals so this stage passes in a less stressful manner.

Parenting is the hardest job you’ll ever have but the most rewarding experience and the greatest investment ever. here are 8 tips for the most common challenges facing single dads.

The first year is always the hardest!

During the first year of single parenthood, you feel lost, confused, not knowing where to start from, what to do, how to manage everything on your plate. This is when a few dads would feel like they aren’t capable of dealing with this huge responsibility, it might even affect their self-esteem. Be patient, get to know your kids, educate yourself about parenthood, practice and learn from your errors. This is a lifetime job that you can’t simply quit or give up on. As Kent Nerburn said, “It is much easier to become a father than to be one”.

Don’t divorce your kids!

Typically, some fathers disconnect from their children when they divorce, either because they are angry or simply to escape reality. Divorce can sometimes strengthen the connection between children and their dads in a way that was not possible before. So embrace this and work on your relationship with your own children instead of divorcing them.

Your kids should be on your priority list.

Being present for your kids is your greatest present to them. Commit to spending time with your children. This is your greatest investment. Buying them expensive gifts and sending them on pricey trips would never compromise your actual existence and presence with them in their life. Be there at parent evenings, give them lifts, go watch a movie together, attend their favorite concert or football match, travel somewhere exciting and adventurous or more relaxing if you need to, go shopping with them. Simply be there for them whenever they need you and treasure these memories as much as you can. Before you know it they will be grown and un-attached!

Establish your set of rules and consistent routines.

If you and your ex can agree on specific unified rules, that is definitely great, but in most cases, she will probably have a totally different set of rules than yours. Your kids need to learn that each house has its own rules, and that should be honored and respected. Don’t worry, they already have another set of rules at school different to the ones you have at home and they learn to apply them. This is something they learn to accept and adapt to with time.

Raising daughters could feel like a daunting task.

Many dads are intimidated by the idea of having to raise a daughter without a mother in the home. This is also true for single moms raising sons on their own. Usually parents feel they can better understand the needs of a child of the same gender. This could be true, so you will need to educate yourself on the needs of girls and tend to them.

Never talk down to their mother.

Kids need a mom as much as they need a dad. Don’t criticize, blame nor demean their mom, ever. Whether you are doing it seeking revenge or are just sharing your insights, this can cause more harm to your kids than good. Your relationship with their mom has ended but they are stuck in this relationship with both of you forever so don’t make their lives harder at any cost.

Be all ears.

Listen to your children’s stories and validate their feelings even if you’ll have to disagree with their behavior sometimes. Be curious and interested to know about their lives: friends, interests, likes, dislikes, hobbies and dreams. You must get to know and understand them well to be able to work on strengthening your relationship together.

Exhaustion will become your companion.

Take good care of your own self. Pay attention to your food, sleep and exercise. Make some time on your schedule for your own social life.

Mantis: A Garden City Gem with a View – Closed

Whether you want to reward yourself for a day’s work well done, or for no particular reason at all, just slip along to Mantis. If your timing is right, you can catch the sun sinking down behind the majestic Pyramids from the 19th floor of this Garden City location. Add a few sharing plates of Mantis’s stellar cuisine, amiable company, a cocktail or two, and life should be just about perfect.

Chef Haya Issa, although young, has several years of international and Michelin-starred restaurant experience tucked under her belt. She is currently bringing global soul food to Mantis in Garden City, Cairo. Her impressive team at Mantis helps express her ecological beliefs. Chef Issa feels a social responsibility to decrease her carbon footprint (foodprint!) and this is expressed in the Mantis menu with the concept of working with organic local farmers to showcase seasonal ingredients through creative sharable plates.

Type of cuisine & Signature Dishes

Innovative, globally-inspired dishes that showcase the freshness and flavor of local produce at its best. Vegans and vegetarians are not forgotten either, there are treats in store.

Signature dishes include the Chimichurri Beef Tenderloin, Mantis Poutine, Chermoula Eggplant, Smashed Pebble Potatoes, Pistachio Chicken, Grilled Chicken Skewers and Mantis Chocolate Truffles.

Dishes Sampled

One of the many joys of Mantis is being able to order a selection of dishes to be shared. We launched into the evening with a plate of Roumi Cheese Puffs. Who doesn’t love a churro, and when they come with flavor-packed roumi wafers and an intense dipping sauce, so much the better. The Garden Salad, with a fresh combination of lettuce, baby arugula, cherry tomatoes, cucumber and mushroom, lightly dressed with an orange and balsamic dressing came alongside a generous platter of Oriental Beef Carpaccio, enhanced by a garnish of sprouted lentils, arugula and lemon vinaigrette.

We loved the Fish Croquettes, served with citrus-y zucchini, black sesame seed and green curry, as well as the Grilled Chicken Skewers with a creamy herb dip. The Mantis Poutine was a new experience, but the carb-packed delight that was dreamed up in the 1950’s by some inspired Quebec foodies went down in a flash. Fries, pulled beef brisket, gravy, gooey cheese, spicy harissa and ranch dressing? You bet!

Even the simple potato has been elevated to new levels. The Smashed Pebble Potato with Garlic Confit, well-scrubbed skins intact, delivered on texture and flavor. We also loved the Creamy Mashed Potato with Caramelized Roasted Garlic, as well as the Chermoula Eggplant, light and fresh with pomegranate, yoghurt and bulgur.

We couldn’t pass up on the Chimichurri Beef Tenderloin and perfectly cooked Pan Seared Fillet of Seabass. A big plus for us was the total lack of the ubiquitous use of heavy, congealed nondescript sauces that seem prevalent in so many establishments. All food ingredients at Mantis shine by allowing the natural flavors to be showcased.

Capping off a gastronomic journey and thoroughly enjoyable evening, we nibbled our way through a plate of Mantis’s signature truffles. The chocolate-y deliciousness sealed the deal for us.  We will be back soon, very soon…

Other Menu Options that Appealed & Beverages

The few items we didn’t try! The Spareribs are a winter inclusion on the menu.

Beverage options include amazing cocktails, plus tap and bottled beer and wine. Soft drinks and juices for those who prefer.

Décor & Ambience

Lots of black, industrial feel with natural wood and a veritable jungle of greenery. And, lest we forget, the panoramic view over the Nile and Cairo.

Ambience is relaxed and clubby, with music pitched to allow conversation. It will amp up later in the evenings though.

Clientele Mix & Price Range

Business professionals, groups of friends, late 20s upwards. Chic and urbane. Price range is moderate, thanks to the intelligent use of local produce where possible.

Top Tip! Follow Mantis on Facebook for updates on the music scene and DJs you can catch.

Contact Information

Opening hours: 5 pm to 1 am, Thursday and Friday until 2 am. Closed on Sunday.

Address: 9 Rostom St, Garden City – Top Floor – Cairo Capital Club Building

Tel: 0100 178 8807

Facebook & Instagram: mantiscairo

A Food Lover’s Thailand: 3 Places to Visit


by Flavor Republic

There’s much to say about taking a trip to Thailand. The typical list includes a boundless variety of street food, picture-perfect beach spots and cheap shopping. But a few days in the north could offer anything from treepod dining and paragliding to massive water fights, awe-inspiring Buddhas and a multitude of perfectly preserved temples that in their entirety are a reflection of Thailand’s rich culture.

Below is an attempt at journaling the highlights of our trip.

BANGKOK

Chatuchak Weekend Market 

From crafty silverware and antique light fixtures to trendy clothing and a variety of plants, Chatuchak is undisputedly the most extensive and exciting shopping experience in Bangkok.

About 15,000 stalls are set-up every weekend in the open air for vendors to sell their products, often priced lower than one would find at bigger shopping malls or markets, like the ones found around the backpacker’s hub Khao San Road. It could be disorienting for first timers, yes, but it’s this kind of competition that ensures prices are distinctly reasonable.

Visitors are a mix of locals and foreigners, and the market is easily accessible from the center of Bangkok. A first-hand tip: find a map ahead of your visit to get a general sense of which sections you would like to visit. This doesn’t mean you have to stick to a preplanned route, but the maze-like set up can have you going around circles, so it’s good to be prepared.

At the entrance of the market, we spotted a potbellied chef with a beret dancing in front of a large skillet. His specialty was paellas, the signature Spanish dish, and we later learned that he’s a well-known feature of the market. It was a charming encounter, although, at least for a moment, we were taken aback considering that delicious Thai food was available at every corner.

Food aside, we picked out a collection of precious handmade mugs and ramekins that we continue to use in our studio.

Damnoen Saduak

 

Navigating through the narrow canals that make-up Damnoen Saduak is a cherished tourist activity. Itself a collection of small floating markets located some 100 kilometers outside Bangkok, Damnoen Saduak is considered the most popular floating market in Thailand.

Every morning, the web of canals that make up the market is dotted with wooden boats weighed down by fresh produce. Farmers keen on catching early risers boast their treats as visitors pass by, gliding along the waterways in their long-tail boats. It’s a bustling affair until noon, where bargaining is permitted and snapping shots of the artful displays of fresh fruits and vegetables is a standard activity.

Even as roads continued to be constructed, particularly during the 19th century, the importance of Thailand’s web of khlongs, the word commonly used to refer to its canals, persisted, not only as a lifeline for farmers, but also as a nod to the country’s rich past.

On our visit, we passed by a woman in traditional clothing and a straw hat preparing Pad Thai. With a hotplate perched in front of her and a riot of aromas wafting about, she had laid out all the ingredients: noodles, bean sprouts, eggs, onions, coriander, peanuts, fish sauce. We also sampled some very yummy sticky rice with mango form a neighboring vendor, a rich local staple that can be savored at any hour of day.

CHIANG MAI

 

 If Thailand’s south is famed for its islands, the north is the heart of its temples. In addition to a striking landscape, it’s recommended for those interested in cultural tourism or adventure travel.

We planned our trip around April, so we were lucky to attend the Thai New Year Songkran while in Chiang Mai, the largest city in northern Thailand. Some of the traditions associated with Songkran have locals visiting temples to pour water on Buddha statues by way of washing away one’s sins. The spiritual cleansing spills onto the streets of Chiang Mai, turning the city into one giant, friendly water fight.

After a tour of some temples, we decided to grab a bite at a street restaurant, lured by the crowd waiting to be seated. We opted for barbequed squid, shrimps and a scrumptious grilled fish with sea salt and chili peanut sauce, followed by a drink of coconut water, which is a common offering in most street markets in Thailand. Pulled out of a chilled icebox, it’s the ideal beverage to quench your thirst after a long day of walking.

Our favorite coffee shop in Chiang Mai, Ristr8to, was set up by coffee aficionados who arrived in Thailand in 2011 by way of Australia. Its name is a nod to Ristretto, a traditionally short shot of espresso made with the standard amount of ground coffee but extracted with about half the amount of water used to prepare a regular espresso.

The setup is so inviting that we kept coming back to Ristr8to throughout our stay in Chiang Mai. Wood adorns the wall of the indoor section of the café, with large blackboards spread along the walls. Everything from the exact amount of caffeine in your coffee to the amount of milk used can be found on the menu, and that, coupled with a warm, friendly atmosphere, sets this place apart.

 

Young Thai girls dressed up in traditional clothing to mark Songkran, April 2017.

PHUKET

 

Home to high-end beachside resorts and a buzzing nightlife, Phuket is also famous for its evening markets. Our highlight was this stuffed shellfish bonanza cooked in béchamel.

Mother’s Day Gift Guide

We’ve rounded up some options from all around town to suit any mom’s tastes. Browse our collection of gift ideas and buy something special for the number one lady in your life today! Click on each item to enlarge the image and read the caption.

Haute Couture at Paris Fashion Week

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Cairo Jazz Club 610’s Spring Rolls

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Cairo Jazz Club 610’s Spring Rolls

 Cairo-jazz-club-Spring rolls

Who doesn’t love a crunchy spring roll? Cairo Jazz Club 610 has put a twist on the original with a dash of feta cheese, providing you with an easy recipe for a knockout appetizer for your next Asian-themed dinner party. All that’s missing is a sushi platter and you’re good to go!

Ingredients:

50 g red onion (finely sliced)

50 g carrot (shredded)

50 g red and yellow bell pepper (finely sliced)

80 g feta cheese (mashed)

2 g fresh ginger (grated)

Dash of soya sauce

Salt and pepper to taste

Preparation:

Sauté all vegetables lightly in hot lightly oiled pan for 30 seconds. Stir in mashed feta cheese. Roll in spring roll pastry and deep fry until golden. Serve with sweet chili sauce.

 

 

6 Ways to Enjoy Quality Family Time

Ski Egypt

It’s not just about fancy gifts, even though they are lovely and sure to please. It is also about the memories you create together as a family that can be treasured for years to come. Why not try one of these ideas to reinforce that special bond you have.

Al Azhar Park

Spend a morning or afternoon in the heart of Cairo’s most historic area, surrounded by rich history and culture. Enjoy the fresh air and space to walk, play and explore. There are so many things to do and see, as well as places to grab a bite. It needn’t break your budget, and any photos taken will be great souvenirs to keep.

Al Azhar Park

Baking Day

Why not roll up your sleeves and cook up a storm in the kitchen? Cakes, cookies and pies, baking is said to be very therapeutic (you needn’t think about the calories). At the end of the day you will have a full larder, and something yummy to show for your efforts.

Board Games

Ban TV, smart-phones and all things electronic for the day and dust off your Scrabble, Monopoly and tawla board. Even Snakes and Ladders can be fun! Let your competitive spirit take over, it’s a great way to have family fun.

Go Karting

For an adrenalin-packed day head out to AutoVrooom, the first international professional racing track in Egypt for both rental and professional kart racing. It is guaranteed family fun, with children as young as eight being able to enjoy being on wheels.

Pharaonic Village

Learn more about Egypt’s rich history and culture at the Nile-side Pharaonic Village in Giza while enjoying myriad activities like a 9D cinema and petting zoo. Dress like a Pharoah, or Cleopatra and have your photo taken to be a souvenir of a fun day out.

Ski Egypt

If a weekend in Chamonix or Val D’Isere is beyond your reach, pop along to Mall of Egypt and have a snow-filled hour or two. Put on your sweaters and ski, snowboard, sledge and take a trip on the Polar Express to the kids’ play area. Round things off with a decadent hot chocolate to make it a perfect day.

Tawlet Beirut’s Fava Beans & Chickpeas

Tawlet Beirut

 

 

Tawlet Beirut’s Fava Beans & Chickpeas

Tawlet BeirutTry Tawlet Beirut’s recipe today for a hearty breakfast or easy to whip up dip. Super easy and provides some delicious nutrition!

 

Ingredients:

4 x 400 g cans fava beans

2 x 400 g cans chickpeas

1 teaspoon cumin

2 cloves garlic, crushed

2 teaspoons salt

¼ cup extra virgin olive oil (plus extra for serving)

Juice of 1 ½ lemons

 

Preparation:

Drain cans of fava beans and chickpeas, rinse well in sieve. Place in a large saucepan with cumin. Add just enough water to cover beans and peas. On a medium heat, bring to the boil. Once it comes to a boil take off the heat. Drain beans and chickpeas into a bowl, remembering to retain at least 2/3 cup of the liquid you boiled it in (this is important). Roughly mash with a spoon or pestle and add the garlic, salt, olive oil and juice of 1 1/2 lemons (add more or less to taste). Mix together. Please note: the longer you leave this mixture to stand, the more of the liquid it will absorb and mixture will dry out.

Serve in bowls topped with chopped mint, parsley, spring onions, tomatoes and olive oil.

 

The Tap West’s Virgin Mojito

This easy recipe will provide a cool beverage to enjoy as the temperatures heat up! Looks delicious, doesn’t it?

A Virgin Mojito

Ingredients:
• 10 fresh mint leaves
• 1 lemon cut into 4 slices
• 2 tsp sugar

Method:
Crush and blend the ingredients using a muddler. Add crushed ice and fill your glass with either club soda or 7Up. Enjoy!